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His, His & Hers

All week in TAC by dasha_tsapenko
This event is open for the public.

The 'Third End of the Spaghetti' is the first exhibition from 3search series. 3search communicates the topic of non-monogamous relationships by deconstructing the ‘puppy love’ of a standard relationship in three parts.

In 'Third End of the Spaghetti' products considered as an icon of standardization are appropriated to suit alternative relationship needs.

By building on stereotypes of love and situations that arise from it, the show communicates the stubbornness of tradition whilst evoking an emotion to something that nearly all of us have experienced first hand or as a voyeur. The overall comment on the products we appropriate is not a discredit to the company but instead a discredit to the market and its romantic values.

Therefore, the 'Third End of the Spaghetti' is a statement of an increasingly changing notion of love as well as an attempt to raise the attention of subject in the field of the forefront engineers of space for modern living.

As part of the show a poly-friendly bar will welcome its guests with modified multi-ended hotdogs, three ended spaghetti courses and poly-friendly shaped ice cream.

The exhibition is possible with the support ofCreative Industries Fund NL.

Hers (Dasha Tsapenko)

Dasha Tsapenko (UA, b.1992) is an architect and social designer interested in the questions of private and public space as well as it’s infrastructure in the frame of a non-monogamous relationship. Her aim is to look on the existing architectural typology under the prism of changing relationships and to develop an alternative one β€” modular, which can be adjusted or ever changing to the number of participants involved in the relationship. She sees it as a necessity to raise this discussion in the realm of architecture, where the question of communal future living is ever present, whilst the nuances of cohabiting relationships are often forgotten about.

His (Chris Cooper)

Chris Cooper (UK, b.1990) is designer, artist and maker inspired by the unseen nature of relationships and how it can be physicalized by creating objects that question their position in society whilst also questioning the society they sit within. Objects possess the power to be oppressive, hateful and restraining whilst simultaneously aiding us. It is this juxtaposition of use and narrative that drives Chris’s passion for this area of research. The ideology of love is a breeding ground for bad design design but also for design to make political and social statements. This design outcome can adequately question the preconceived ideology of existing object manufacturers whilst simultaneously helping people with mundane but problematic scenarios.

His (Timothy Liu)

Timothy Liu (TW, b.1988) is a speculative strategist, who tackles with different perspectives of the modern age we are living in as a cultural observer, future explorer and researcher. He enjoys experimenting with playful reality framework to trigger incidents that intervene between human and object by questioning this relation of normality within the social infrastructure. In the past 10 years iPhone, Airbnb, Tinder and Uber have changed remarkably our understanding of sharing. Being fascinated by the relationship of immaterial subjects, Liu is interested in how will this social transition and co-sharing future look like.

We have a relationship of 3. We are polyamorous.

Since the start of our relationship, we experienced a world insufficiently designed for people like us. Dwellings, public spaces, furniture, public & private institutions, as well as all the regulations within them, were typically based around the traditional understanding of the couple and their binaries, which didn’t meet our needs.

When we moved in together, we immediately started to experience the discomfort of living in a household designed to a conventional standard of relationship. It withheld the ability of our love to flourish.

More so than products, services were equally as hard to come by for our case. For example, when booking a room none of the hotels could offer us a proper suite. When trying to reserve a table for a romantic Valentine’s day dinner for the 3 of us from a special menu of a restaurant, we were refused, - "couples only", they told us.

Products and services are universally designed for singles or couples. Very often they are romanticized. (double seats for lovers in the last row of the cinema, matching couple pendants, bed linen for a double bed, twin toothbrush holders, matching mugs and sweatshirts, romantic getaways, dates for two ... not to mention weddings). This led us to believe the market just doesn’t exist for this type of love, and worse, it even manages to inhibit the chances of this type of love to evolve.


We asked ourselves why in a world that is becoming more open an accepting of personal choices we are still faced with the taboo of personal choice concerning love. Our relationship and the needs around it became the start of our design-triad.

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